Working with new fathers or stepfathers? Here’s is some food for thought to share:
It is kind of silly not to take advantage of all the knowledge and wisdom held by veteran dads—the fathers who’ve gone ahead of us on this road of raising kids. Still, fathers don’t make a habit of talking to each other about being dads. We’re more comfortable discussing the latest football trade than the pros and cons of teaching an infant to swim.
Fortunately, you don’t have to repeat any “strong and silent” or “fathering is for wimps” patterns. (Parenting is most definitely not for wimps, whatever they are) So use your courage to ask an experienced father for advice. Or just ask him to tell stories about when he and his partner were first starting out. He’ll probably be flattered, and happy to chat.
And don’t forget those veteran moms. Girls grow up hearing as much about parenting as we heard about baseball. So, when they grow up and become moms, they can also be valuable coaches for us rookies.
So, on the days when you feel panicked and overwhelmed, stop and ask for help and directions from a veteran dad or a parents’ hotline or warmline. Notice, I said “when” and not “if”. You will feel panicked and overwhelmed, so don’t . . . well, panic about it!
Luckily, along with the fear, you’ll also start feeling great pride in your accomplishments. Rightly so! You are making a big difference in the life of your infant. That pride will continue to be a great comfort and motivation through all your days as a father.
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